THE MOMMY / DADDY OUTFIT (End clothing issues forever)
developed by Nancy Rolfe
Clothing is one of the most common issues that ridiculously result in arguments between parents after parenting time (aka; visitation) exchange. Parents that care more about themselves than their child, will literally abuse any issue related to their child as an opportunity to 'get to' and agitate the opposing parent, including clothing.
How to end this issue - forever.
Upon the child's arrival to your home, have child remove the clothing outfit that he/she is wearing. Place on hanger & hang at far end of the closet - where it will remain through the duration of parenting time (visitation).
Time for your child to return to their other parent:
Child retrieves the "Mommy/Daddy outfit from closet and dresses in the same outfit that they were wearing at the time of their arrival.
This guarantees the child is returning in the same clothing that is in the same condition that it was, when the child arrived.
*Using plastic hangers (not wire) is safer for the child.
*Hanging clothing instead of folding assures clothing will be in the
same condition as when child arrived to you.
*Using the same side of closet and the far end of the closet every
time assures no confusion for your child when it is time to dress
for the return.
Just like brushing teeth and hair before laying down to sleep, by the third week, when the child arrives, he / she should automatically walk to the closet, change outfits and hang up the "Mommy or Daddy outfit".
As this is a new addition to the child's 'to do' list, age pending, they will ask "Why do I have to change my clothes?" - When you reply, do NOT engage in any negative comments regarding the other parent!!!!
Appropriate answer: We want to make sure your clothes stay nice.
NOT appropriate answer: Because your psychotic Mom/Dad keeps stealing your clothes and I'm tired of buying new outfits!
WHY THE 'DADDY OUTFIT' WAS DEVELOPED
My youngest son was always dressed nice when he went to visit the biological sperm donor (aka; BSD). Upon his return home, my son would be wearing clothing that was too small & horrid condition (belonging to his 1/2 sisters kid). This started with outfits and graduated to include underwear, socks and shoes. The nice clothes he wore to each visit, would never be seen again. I was even forced to buy new shoes numerous times.
The first couple of times this happened, I assumed BSD was just an ignorant hillbilly and would keep saying he would bring the missing clothes 'next time'. 'Next time' never came. The clothing abuse upset my son every week and this BSD was so sick he even
stole my son's sports clothing. That's when I had to involve the court.
One time I was dumb enough to send my sons YMCA basketball shirt & gym shoes because the time the court gave was so close to the start of his sports league. My son was so upset playing basketball without his cherished YMCA shirt and forced to play in street shoes. I was stuck, the only other option was for my child to not attend that day. His sports classes and leagues were very important to my son as he proudly earned trophies at the completion of each.
The first couple of times this happened, I assumed BSD was just an ignorant hillbilly and would keep saying he would bring the missing clothes 'next time'. 'Next time' never came.
VISITATION # 2
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